If you know someone who is chronically late – have some pity. What’s really going on with them...

Dealing with people who are chronically late can be maddening – but it might not be their fault...

Diana DeLonzor, author of “Never Be Late Again,” says her lateness cost her friendships and damaged personal and professional relationships. She hated being late but she just couldn’t help it. 

Diana says punctual people often perceive the late types to be controlling, selfish or inconsiderate – but there’s a lot more to it than that. Chronically late people are often dealing with a lot of underlying issues. Some have trouble with self-control, procrastination, anxiety or attention disorders. 

Diana says don’t give up on the eternally tardy. If it’s someone you really care about or depend on, help them change their ways. If you’re tempted to try the half hour earlier trick – don’t bother. They will catch on. Have an honest discussion with them when they do finally show up and try setting some challenges. Offer to pick up the tab if they’re on time. If they’re late – they pay.