Where advice is concerned – a few words can make all the difference...
Judy Kuriansky, author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to a Healthy Relationship,” has some hurtful and helpful ways to dole out your wisdom:
• Hurtful: “You should.” Most people don’t want to hear that.
• Helpful: Ask questions first. “How is this affecting you?” This opens up the door for your wonderful suggestions.
• Hurtful: “I had that problem.” This is their dilemma, not yours.
• Helpful: Ask what you can do to help. Wait until their finished to share your experience and what you learned from it.
• Hurtful: “You’ll get over it.” That does nothing to help them now.
• Helpful: Help them sort through the issue at hand before leaping into the future.
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