Toxic Relationship

Is there a toxic relationship somewhere in your life?

Could you identify a toxic relationship? A lot of people have been in one without realizing it. Sherrie Bourg Carter, author of “High Octane Women,” says toxic relationships are characterized by insecurity, abuse of power and control, criticism, negativity, distrust, demeaning comments and/or jealousy.

Sounds pretty bad – and it is. A toxic relationship can take a huge toll on your life and your health. To determine if a relationship is toxic, Dr. Bourg Carter suggests answering these questions:

• Do you feel content or energized with this person, or unfulfilled and drained?

• Do you feel better or worse about yourself after spending time with this person?

• Do you feel physically or emotionally threatened?

• Is the relationship characterized by drama and angst?

The first step to changing a toxic relationship is to recognize you’re in one. The next step is to assure yourself that you deserve to be treated with respect, love and compassion – the three primary factors of a healthy relationship. Once you accomplish those steps – you will be better equipped to address the toxic behavior and distance yourself from the relationship.