Forget your IQ - how high is your EQ?

Having a high IQ can be nice – but your EQ can have a much bigger impact on your life.

Your EQ, or emotional intelligence, affects everyone around you – from your boss and coworkers, to your friends, spouse and kids. Emotional intelligence is measured by your ability to control your emotions and your perception of other people’s feelings and needs. We’re all born with a certain predisposition – but there are some effective ways to raise your EQ:

• Identify and manage your stress. Stress can block our senses to what’s really going on around us. Find a technique that works for you to reduce it fast. A few deep breaths can do wonders.

• Be emotionally aware. Many people disconnect from strong core emotions such as anger, sadness, fear and joy. Consider your facial expressions and body language - you can actually help keep strong emotions in check by adjusting those.

• Get to know yourself. Make a list of your top five strengths and weaknesses – then ask a few people for some feedback and opinions. It’s a great way to find out how you're perceived by others.

People with good listening skills tend to have the highest EQs. It might take some practice – but if you can train yourself to really listen without interjecting or interrupting – you’ll instantly raise your EQ.