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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

If you’ve got a secret – you really need to tell someone.

It’s not nice to tell secrets – but keeping them to yourself can damage your psychological and physical health...

Gail Saltz, author of “Anatomy of a Secret Life,” says little secrets serve an important function to both kids and adults. They help us maintain the feeling that we’re unique individuals and in control of what information we choose to share. But really big secrets, that we feel we can’t tell anyone, have a much bigger impact. That’s when the power shifts and you are no longer controlling the secret – but letting the secret control you.

Dr. Saltz warns that keeping significant secrets can lead to a lot of inner conflict, stress, anxiety and worry. Those who need to alter their behavior to protect secrets or lies often wind up with serious health issues such as digestive problems, headaches, high blood pressure and depression. Revealing your secrets does not always require breaking confidences. It’s worth seeking out a trusted friend or therapist to confide in if you’ve got a secret that has got control over you in any way.

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