To BCC - or Not to BCC...

If you’re sending a group email – should you use CC or BCC?

There are a lot of rules to remember when it comes to email etiquette – and the CC and BCC options are no exception. Brenna Ehrlich, author of “Stuff Hipsters Hate,” has some good advice to consider BEFORE you hit “send:”

CC: If there are people in your contacts that rarely or never respond to your political rants, scandals, warnings, jokes or adorable sneezing puppy videos – go ahead and get them out of your CC field. It’s important to remember that each one of your CCs may have to endure every response from those who use “reply all,” which most people do in a group email.

BCC: This can be more like a mine field. If you’re using it for a party invite – you’re probably not doing anyone a favor by keeping the list to yourself. It puts your potential guests in the awkward position of not being sure who to mention it to - or worrying who ELSE might be showing up. If you’re using BCC: to be sneaky and share that email under the radar – you might regret it if your blind recipient hits “reply all” with their response.

If fall allergies are driving you nuts, here's some advice…

If your voice is scratchy and your eyes are itchy – it could be fall allergies...

You might even wind up with a sore throat and an itchy or runny nose. Blame it on ragweed. It’s in the air from coast to coast and 75% of us are allergic to it. Over-the-counter antihistamines provide some relief for most people – but there are some foods to avoid eating too. Cantaloupe, banana, chamomile tea, sunflower seeds and honey can actually make matters worse for people allergic to ragweed.

If you’d like to get away from the ragweed all together – good luck with that. Your best bet is to head out to sea – way, way out. Ragweed pollen has been measured as far out as 400 miles from land.

Are you embarrassed – or ashamed?

Moderate levels of embarrassment are signs of virtue!

That’s what UC Berkeley psychologists have determined. If that public stumble or forgotten names leaves you feeling a bit flush, don’t fight it. It turns out we trust people more when they exhibit some level of embarrassment when it’s appropriate. People who naturally have some sense of humility are considered pro-social – while those who don’t get flustered one bit tend to be a bit more anti-social, less generous and less likeable.

There is a significant difference between embarrassed and ashamed. Aside from blushing, typical gestures of embarrassment would be a smirk or grimace, a downward gaze to the side or partially covering your face. Those who cover their entire face, close their eyes or drop their head completely down have surpassed moderate embarrassment and entered the realm of shame.

What color are your dishes?

Are your dinner plates white? That’s a pretty safe bet but it’s a little boring...

Those plates are the canvas to your masterpiece meal. If you’re not sure which color to serve meatloaf on – you’re in luck! Food stylists Marilinda Hodgdon and Colin Cooke have served up our best options:

• Green food: Yellow plates. They share pigments and your salad or pesto will look happy and fresh on there. Just don’t use the red plates! The red reflects onto the green and it’s not a good look.

• Beige food: Black plates. That chicken or Alfredo looks bland and could probably use a little contrast. Forget the tan, red or green plates – that will make beige food look flavorless and boring.

• Red or brown food: White plates. Tomatoes, beef and red sauces really pop off a white plate and beg you to eat them. Skip the green plates – that pairing is appalling.

• Yellow or orange food: Blue plates. That’s a dramatic contrast for your eggs, corn or mango salsa. Put away the purple plates – those will make the meal look undercooked and unappealing.

When it comes to desert – you’ll want to keep flavor in mind. Pinks and purples convey sweetness, while yellow and orange lean more tart – but that chocolate cake with a cherry will look luscious on a red plate.

Where does your heart line end?

We’ve all got a heart line on our palm...

It’s the one that starts under your pinky finger and runs up towards one of your fingers. Hand analyst Ronelle Coburn says that line can really help explain the relationships in our life. Where that line ends on your hand can hold some valuable insight. Now, take a close look at your dominant hand:

• If your heart line ends under your index finger – you’re a diplomat. You’re thoughtful and considerate but may lack a little in the spontaneity department.

• If that line ends about half way up – you’re the independent, super practical type. That’s nice – but you probably keep your thoughts to yourself and lack some verbal communication skills.

• Heart lines that end between the index and middle fingers are on the palms of people who would do anything to help. Chances are they could really benefit from some self-indulging alone time once in a while.

• If your line ends closest to your middle finger – you’re filled with passion and love excitement. Go ahead and enjoy that – just keep the drama in check.

If your heart line intersects with another line, or appears to split – you’re probably feeling a bit conflicted or frustrated about your relationship. You might want to defer to your other hand.

You're bound to see this sign at your grocery store...

When you have the opportunity to buy 10 items for 10 bucks at the grocery store – should you?

You’re bound to see a sign on your grocery store shelf offering 10 of something for $10, or 6 for $2, or 3 for $5. This multiple deal approach is a common theme right now in the industry. According to John Gourville, professor of marketing at Harvard Business School, they’re trying to trigger our impulses and it’s working! In a recent experiment, items were offered in groups of 10 for $10, 5 for $5 and 1 for $1. The majority of shoppers opted for 5 or 10 because it FELT like a better deal.

The bottom line is, if you’re buying 10 items, they’re probably selling you at least 9 more than you planned for. Stick with just the item and amount you need - some stores will sell that to you at the same price you’d pay for it in the multiple deal.

We think of vitamins as good - but some are bad...

There are certain vitamins you SHOULDN’T be taking...

Unless you’ve got a deficiency and have specific orders from your doctor, here are a few supplements NOT to take:

• Beta Carotene: If you’ve heard it prevents cancer, there is no evidence that supports that. Beta Carotene supplements can actually increase the risk of lung cancer in smokers.

• Folic Acid: Unless you’re pregnant – don’t bother.

• Selenium: This could increase your risk of type 2 diabetes.

• Vitamin B12: It’s used to prevent age-related mental decline and boost energy – but only for people who are B12 deficient. Don’t take it without your doctor’s okay.

• Vitamin C: People who live in cold climates, run marathons or smoke could benefit from it – but most of us get enough of it in our regular diet.

• Vitamin E: High doses could actually increase the risk of stroke – don’t take it. Foods rich in vitamin E are the way to go.

• Zinc: High doses can weaken the immune system. Occasional zinc lozenges or sprays, at the onset of a cold, are fine.

If you love getting a shoulder massage – be careful!

An intense massage around the shoulder and neck area might feel great...

...but you could wind up regretting it. Hard pressure applied to the upper shoulder can result in nerve injury, according to Mayo Clinic researchers. There is a tiny nerve in there called the spinal accessory nerve. It travels through the back side of your upper shoulder – and compression to that nerve could injure it. If it hurts so good – say something! If you experience pain or shoulder weakness after a massage – let your physician know about it.

If someone you know could use some cheering up...

You can really cheer someone up – with roses!

It’s scientifically proven. Researchers at the University of California determined that the scent of roses elevates our spirits and relieves tension by activating our brain receptors. It doesn’t have to be the real thing – rose candles, spray or scented lotion can do the trick too.

Roses can do more than cheer us up. The scent can help us get to sleep, enhance our dreams and even lower blood pressure and breathing rates.

What you watch on TV says something about you...

Did you see Dancing with the Stars?

If you like that show, you’re empathetic and youthful. What we watch on TV reveals a bit about our personality. Here’s the rest of the lineup:

• If you like talk shows like Dr. Oz, Dr. Phil and Ellen, you’re a fast thinker and enjoy absorbing information.

• If a fantasy or sci-fi like True Blood, The Vampire Diaries or Fringe is your thing, you’re the creative type that likes a challenge.

• If you’re hungry for cooking shows, you’re patient, sincere and logical.

• Fans of reality shows like Project Runway, The Real Housewives and The Bachelor are usually also enjoying a boost of self-esteem. Witnessing inappropriate behavior and complicated relationships make our lives feel a little better.

How about a nice hot cup of – water?

We’re all supposed to be drinking plenty of water – but most of us could really benefit from drinking it hot...

Drinking plenty of hot water throughout the day not only rehydrates us – but can help our skin look great. That hot water works by restoring inner warmth and increasing circulation. That cycle actually helps to clean your skin from the inside out and reduces facial puffiness.

If you’ve got problematic skin with redness or rosacea – skip the hot water and drink it warm instead. Warm water will be more effective at balancing out your core temperature.

Everybody rotate!

As the seasons rotate – so should your tires.

I’ll tell you how important it is, in a minute…Payoff:A change of season is as good a time as any to rotate those tires! It’s a basic maintenance that is not only important – but could save you a LOT of money. Think for a moment about what those tires do all day. All that turning and parallel parking puts a lot of pressure on those front tires – even more so for front-wheel drive. They are the ones that take the heat, literally, with all that friction. When you rotate your tires, front to rear, you’re equalizing tread wear and maximizing their life.

There are a few things to do if you have someone else rotate your tires. First of all, make sure they rotate from front to rear on the SAME side – not crisscross. This keeps the tread pattern in sync with the suspension and alignment. Also, it’s a good idea to mark your tires in some way. This helps you to be sure they actually DID the rotation – and that the tires end up where you want them to be.

If you could use and extra dose of confidence – here are three...

A little confidence can go a long way...

A lack of confidence can really break your stride and even your spirit. Life coach Marcelina Hardy has five valuable confidence boosting techniques we all should try:

1. Each day, do one thing that scares you that will enhance your business or life in some way. For example, network with someone who is of a higher authority to ask for his or her advice.

2. When rejected, look in the mirror and say, “This person did not reject me; he rejected my service or idea.” Do this repeatedly.

3. Positive self-talk includes language such as, “I have not failed because I have not quit. I will not fail because I will not quit.”

4. Envision yourself at the height of success. What does it feel like, what are the thoughts that go through your mind, what do you do, how do you act? Practice this vision. Approach the people in your life with that vision of success. You have what it takes to make their lives easier and better. Give it to them.

5. Make a list of things to do each day that you know you can do and do them. Each time you do them, cross it off your list. Each item on your list should be something that will help to achieve your goals.

Marcelina says your life is in your hands. You can do whatever you want with it. It’s time to muster up and go for what you want from life. Practice these boosters and do it for a few weeks, you’ll see that your confidence will slowly start to build. Once you see that you are much more powerful than you think, your ego will do the rest.

If you think your job is tough – it probably is!

Is your work stressing you out?

If you’re a coal miner – yes! It’s one of the 10 most stressful jobs out there. First there are the long hours in the dark without access to really fresh air. Then there’s the physically hard work in cramped conditions. Oh yeah, there’s also the ever-present danger of being trapped or killed or developing a job related disease. Here are the other 9 most stressful jobs:

• Emergency Personnel often work long hours with little or interrupted sleep. They deal with people in crisis and with their own grief when things don’t go well.

• Corporate executives’ big salaries come at a price. Long hours, cutthroat competition, constant pressure and public scrutiny are all super-stressful.

• Newspaper reporters work long hours for little pay. Their schedules are apt to change with little or no notice and the pressure of deadlines, ridicule and layoffs make their job a lot less glamorous than most people think.

• Medical professionals deal with a lot of worry and often spend much of their workday on their feet and exposed to really unpleasant stuff.

• Police officers put their lives on the line even for a routine traffic stop. They must follow strict protocol, practice restraint and are subject to split-second judgments.

• Pilots and air traffic controllers work under intense pressure in less than ideal conditions, with no room for error and our lives in their hands.

• Teachers get no down time while students are present and take more work home with them than most other professionals. They are constantly being judged and probably have to deal with some lack of respect.

• Parents don’t show up on many lists - but it’s probably the most important and stressful job they’ll ever have.

• Deployed military personnel are in a category of their own. They are the only ones who do NOT have the freedom to take a break or walk away from a job they don’t like. Their families must sacrifice too – and then there’s the challenge of readjusting and finding another job when they’re done.

Lack of sleep could mean BIG trouble for your teen...

It may come as no surprise that most kids aren’t getting enough sleep...

...and a new study says that could mean big trouble. Over two-thirds of U.S. teens admit getting less than eight hour of sleep on school nights – and those kids are more apt to make bad choices. Researchers say lack of sufficient sleep is associated with risky behavior such as smoking, drinking, fighting, sexual activity and drug use. Even the well-behaved teens are more likely to log more TV and computer time, eat more, act less and feel sad or helpless if they’re sleep deprived.

Sleeping until noon on the weekends to make up for lost hours won’t help. Teens require at least 9 hours of sleep per night. On a school night, for most high school students, that would mean lights-out between 9 and 10:00.

If you’d like to be “in” this fall – here are some must-have items for your wardrobe...

If you looking forward to ditching the summer duds for sweater and boot season...

...fashion expert Nikki Pennie says there’s something for everyone in this fall’s fashion trend. Here are the must-have items:

• For the women – it’s all about the skirt this year. They’ve inched up over the dress for the first time in a while. Any length will do – but the femme fatale pencil skirt is the most popular. Pair that with some classic heels and a clutch purse, and go easy on the accessories. You’ll want to lose last year’s fringe, fuzzy or platform boots. This year, the tall equestrian style is in. Just don’t wear those with your pencil skirt.

• For the men – it’s a turtleneck. You’ll want a deep tone that’s not too bulky. Pair that with jeans and a blazer or leather pilot jacket. If you’re brave enough to sport a pair of skinny jeans – balance things out a bit with some military or Frye boots.

Forget your IQ - how high is your EQ?

Having a high IQ can be nice – but your EQ can have a much bigger impact on your life.

Your EQ, or emotional intelligence, affects everyone around you – from your boss and coworkers, to your friends, spouse and kids. Emotional intelligence is measured by your ability to control your emotions and your perception of other people’s feelings and needs. We’re all born with a certain predisposition – but there are some effective ways to raise your EQ:

• Identify and manage your stress. Stress can block our senses to what’s really going on around us. Find a technique that works for you to reduce it fast. A few deep breaths can do wonders.

• Be emotionally aware. Many people disconnect from strong core emotions such as anger, sadness, fear and joy. Consider your facial expressions and body language - you can actually help keep strong emotions in check by adjusting those.

• Get to know yourself. Make a list of your top five strengths and weaknesses – then ask a few people for some feedback and opinions. It’s a great way to find out how you're perceived by others.

People with good listening skills tend to have the highest EQs. It might take some practice – but if you can train yourself to really listen without interjecting or interrupting – you’ll instantly raise your EQ.

If you suspect those co-workers are more than just co-workers – here's what to look for...

They may think they’re being discreet – but people having office romances usually blow their cover.

Here are a few dead giveaways:

• John and Marsha used to chat in the lunchroom or ride the elevator together – but now they go out of their way NOT to. Hmmm.

• Marsha lets everyone know she’s leaving now. John makes a point of announcing he’s got more work to do - a little too INconvenient.

• John used to love those after-work get-togethers – and Marsha used to have a life too. Now they’re both workaholics. What a coincidence.

• Marsha used to be happy to see you – and you could always count on John for a good joke. Now, if you enter a room where they happen to be, Marsha is dumbstruck and John looks sick.

• The first time John and Marsha’s vacation days coincided seemed like a coincidence. The third time’s a trend.

• You always knew John was a huge Yankee’s fan – so what’s with the Derek Jeter bobble head on Marsha’s desk?

• John was always a stylish guy. Now his shirt is buttoned wrong and Marsha’s sweater is inside out!

That indentation above your top lip has some hidden power

Go ahead – pinch your philtrum.

That’s the indentation above your upper lip. That spot can pack a powerful punch. This acupressure point can come in handy for a few different scenarios. Here are some ways to activate your philtrum power:

• Food cravings: Pinch your philtrum between your thumb and forefinger 30 times to kill the craving.

• Hiccups: Press the center of your philtrum against your teeth – and hold it for 20 to 30 seconds.

• Leg cramps: Pinch and hold your philtrum for 15 to 30 seconds. After that, press between your first and second metatarsal. That’s the spot in between your big and second toe.

Are you at risk of superheating?

The next time you microwave a beverage – beware of superheating!

It’s a phenomenon that occurs when heating liquid – especially if the container has a super-smooth surface such as glass. When the conditions are right, liquids that have been heated in a microwave can actually wind up at an unstable temperature – and surpass boiling AFTER it’s been removed. Using a metal spoon to stir the liquid, or adding something such as a powdered mix can actually cause boiling liquid within the container to splash up or seemingly explode.

There are a few things you can do to prevent superheating. Add a non-metal object, such as a wooden stirrer or toothpick, to the liquid before cooking. Don’t heat the beverage for more time than is needed and give the container a few taps before removing it from the microwave.

You can boost your immune system - or have fun trying...

Now is a good time of year to give that immune system a boost...

Our immune systems can be a bit sensitive during a change of season – but luckily there are some things we can do to give it a boost and some of them are kind of fun:

• Singing: Go ahead and belt one out in the shower or the car. Singing aloud actually raises the levels of an important immune system antibody.

• A hearty breakfast: A good dose of protein, carbs and healthy fats in the morning feeds our body’s natural anti-viral mechanism.

• Sex: Just once a week boosts immunity by 30% - assuming your partner’s not sick.

If you’d rather your boss NOT see that you’re playing games on Facebook...

Love it or leave it – the new Facebook is here.

That new ticker in the right hand column is akin to Twitter. No more clicking or digging to see what your friends are up to – their real time activity will keep on ticking – and the same goes for you. If you’re worried your boss will see you playing Words with Friends – that’s not likely, unless of course your boss is playing games too. Ticker activity is displayed according to which app category you are in. If you’d rather not be so visible in other people’s tickers, here are a few options:

• Change your App Settings – you’ll find that under Privacy Settings. There you can pick and choose which activities can be viewed by whom.

• Another option is to block one of your actions as soon as it appears in the ticker. Just hover over it and click the “x” and your blocking options will appear.

• There is really no way to prevent your comments and posts from appearing in your friends’ tickers – unless you’ve created friend lists.

If you just hate the ticker all-together – you’re out of luck. We can’t make it go away but we can make it smaller. Click on the bar at the bottom of the ticker column and move it up – you can shrink it all the way down to one item.

If you want the old Facebook back, there are some applications out there that you can download - but do that with caution – scammers are bound to get in on the act. And if you’re wondering why Facebook doesn’t ask its “customers” first before changing everything around, just remember – you are the Facebook PRODUCT – not the customer.

You could be ASKING to be robbed!

Most of us lock the door when we leave the house...

...but there are some other common mistakes we make that are like welcome mats to robbers:

• Leaving the garage door unlocked: Once inside the garage, a burglar can usually find any tools he may have forgotten.

• Hiding the spare key: Under the doormat, in the mailbox and over the doorway are still really bad choices. And burglars are onto the fake rock too.

• Unlocked sheds: If you’ve got a ladder in there, or anywhere outside – you could be asking for it.

• Silent alarm systems: Smart thieves know it can take as long as 10 to 20 minutes for the cops to show up and that’s plenty of time for them. The louder the alarm, the better.

• Big bushes: That overgrown landscaping is great cover for a robber. Some even look for overhanging branches to gain access to your roof.

• Leaving it up to the dog: That barking alarm may deter an amateur – but a seasoned thief may well be prepared with a tranquilizer laced treat.

There's a chill in the air - and you might want to keep it there...

Our home heating systems are bound to be seeing some action pretty soon.

We're better off if we keep that fall chill in the air right through winter.  If you can, set a limit on that thermostat to around 68 degrees. A recent study revealed that folks who heated their homes above 68 were more than twice as likely to gain weight over the winter. The body burns more calories when it has to work a little harder to maintain its stable core temperature of 98.6.

It will be easier for the whole family to get used to that 68 degree environment now rather than trying to back off mid-winter.

Now that summer is over – you may want to start building a spot to hunker down...

All resourceful animals prepare for winter survival – and humans are no exception...

Man and caves may have a long history – but the man cave has come a long way and it’s all the rage. Ikea has even gotten in on the hunkering down and man can retreat to Ikea's Manland, with sports, hotdogs, pinball and foosball while woman shops. If you’d like your very own man cave, here are the essentials:

• The perch: Comfortable seating is a must, be it a beat up favorite or something more modern like the Gallery massage chair with cup holder, built-in speakers and a USB port.

• The oracle: The HD flat screen is essential – the bigger the better.

• Hydration: Keep it cold. A mini fridge or even a cooler should do the trick – but the Kegerator is a man cave favorite. Don’t forget the cups.

• Nutrition: Anything ending in O should suffice – Cheetos, Doritos, Oreos, Combos, Fritos, etc.

• Game: No hunting required. The Xbox, PlayStation or pool table are bound to encourage interaction with your fellow man. Or you could keep it simple with a deck of cards or a ping pong ball.

Do you check reviews online before buying something?

Online reviews can be really helpful before you invest in something you’re not familiar with – but some of them are LIES!

Merchandisers know we’re looking for advice – and good reviews can have a really big impact on our decision. Up to 99% of customer reviews we browse through could actually be fakes. Here’s how to spot the bogus ones:

• Check the dates. If a lot of the reviews were written in the same day or over just a few days – that’s a red flag.

• Check the item. If the reviewers are mentioning the entire name and model over and over – skip that review. The average consumer doesn’t write that way.

• Watch for bad reviews – they know you’re looking for those. If it starts out on a sour note but then convinces you how wonderful the product is – keep reading.

If you’re buying gadgets or anything electronic – check YouTube for reviews. A lot of people webcast demonstrations and it’s much easier to tell if they’re authentic.

If you like a bargain – skip the one on electrical stuff...

If you spot an extension cord, holiday lights or a night light in the bargain bin...

...you might want to take a pass on that deal. Cheap, uncertified electrical items can be really dangerous and result in injury or fire. Be especially wary of any inexpensive power tools.

The next time you buy something electrical – check the label. Be sure it includes the manufacturer’s contact information and a UPC bar code. Items without the bar codes, branding or certification marks are often the faultiest. You’ll also want to check for spelling and grammar errors on packages - and be especially careful when buying anything electrical online.

Is there poison in your toothpaste? Yes!

Check your toothpaste label!

If it’s got fluoride in there it says “If more than used for brushing is accidentally swallowed, get medical help or contact a Poison Control Center right away.” Sounds kind of scary. According to Mark A. Stengler, author of “The Natural Physician’s Healing Therapies, it is. He says the average tube of toothpaste contains enough fluoride to kill a child. Fluoride is a highly toxic substance, even more toxic than lead. It was once used as rat poison and even the FDA has it categorized as a drug.

Dr. Stengler says better oral hygiene, NOT fluoride, is the key to fighting cavities - and we really need to minimize our fluoride intake by using dental products without it. Look for toothpaste and mouthwash containing natural ingredients only. He also says 70% of us have fluoridated water and are getting much more than we should. Most household water filters do NOT eliminate fluoride. Drinking spring water is our best bet.

Is that just a headache – or a rebound headache?

Nobody likes a headache – but some of us are bringing them on ourselves...

Rebound headaches occur when the pain medication you took for the first headache wears off. This tends to happen to people who take over-the-counter pain relievers more than 3 times a week on a regular basis. After a while, your body adapts to the medication and that rebound headache could kick in when it wears off.

If you think your headaches are in the rebound category – let your doctor know. You’ll want to reduce and maybe change the type of relief you take. If you wake up with a headache, or get them every day – there’s a good chance they are rebounds.

If you’d like to be smarter – take a nap!

You might want to consider scheduling a nap sometime this afternoon...

 You’ll be smarter if you do and there’s a new study to prove it. Two groups of young adults were given a learning task at noon. One group took a 90 minute nap at 2 while the other group went about their day. Around 3:30 both groups took another test – and the nappers scored higher. Our brains are like sponges and if we don’t give it a break, it will keep trying to absorb information while some important stuff drips out.

Experts say the best naptime differs by age according to typical sleep cycles. The ideal napping window for teens and young adults is around 4pm. Anyone older than that should try to fit it in between 1 and 3 pm.

There’s something on the McDonald’s menu in France that we can’t get here.

If you’re craving something a little different at McDonalds – head for France...

Over there, you can order the Croque McDo! It’s 2 melted slices of Emmental cheese and a slice of ham between 2 flattened hamburger buns. Here are some other McItems available around the world:

• In Hong Kong you can get a Shogun burger, a pork patty with teriyaki sauce and cabbage, or some McSpaghetti. You can even top that off with a banana McPie!

• If you’re in the Middle East – you might order the McArabia – grilled kofta wrapped in pita bread. They also have the Chicken McCurry Pan, a rectangle dish made from dough, filled with veggies and spices.

• In Germany and France – you can wash down your McPizza with a McBeer!

You’ve probably heard of John Doe – but do you know who Mary Major is?

Meet John, Jane and Baby Doe...

None of them are necessarily related – and they don’t even have to be real. John Doe has been used as an anonymous or unidentified name dating all the way back to the 18th century. In the U.S. court system, John Doe is usually reserved as the fictitious name of a PLAINTIFF – Jane Doe if it’s a woman. In the event the DEFENDANT needs some anonymity – Jane or Richard Roe will probably take the stand. John, Jane, Richard and Baby can also be called upon to represent hypothetical people who weren’t even there.

Should the Does or the Roes require some anonymous company in their case – we’ll likely hear from John Stiles and Richard Miles. Those names are often used for third and fourth participants in an action. Mary Major might even make an appearance if it’s an American federal case.

Do you let your kids eat candy? You should!

Saweet!

Hey kids – pay attention! Your parents SHOULD be letting you eat candy! In a recent study, kids and teens who were allowed to devour a candy bar every once in a while were actually 22% LESS likely to be overweight. The theory behind these sweet findings: Knowing it’s okay to indulge without guilt from time to time can actually feel more satisfying. Make sure to remind your parents you might just rummage up something more substantial and fattening to snack on if you’re deprived of that occasional treat.

Now the bad news: Under no circumstances does that mean you’re off the hook with fruits, veggies and exercise – and the Snickers for breakfast is NOT an option. Eating candy does nothing to meet your nutritional needs and should be saved for a special occasion.

Do you end your emails with “Best,” or “Cheers?”

"Sincerely” is probably the most common email sign-off out there.

But according to Peter Post, author of “Essential Manners for Men,” “Sincerely” has become all-purpose and safe and lacks sincerity. It also indicates there might be a problem. Here are some other closers – and how they come across:

• “Yours truly” is a safe bet and generic enough – but it leans personal.

• “Regards” is not bad – but it’s on the bland side and safe for professional stuff.

• “Best” is not really best. Save that – and variations of that – for someone you really know.

• “Cheers” is a popular one – but could come across to the reader as a bit “mock-Brit.” It also tends to conjur up the image of you with a drink in your hand.

• “Cordially” could have undertones of disdain – or convey that you’re super-serious.

Of course you could always opt out of the email closer and just end with your name – remember, that last word can be a valuable one and you might not want to waste it. It’s a great opportunity to leave the reader in sync with your intended tone – be it humorous, serious, urgent or casual. Get creative and come up with your very own - it will be remembered.

Seacrest, out.

How do you know if it’s just a sore throat – or strep?

If you run to the doctor every time you get a sore throat – there are a few things to consider first.

Dr. Robert M. Centor says there are a few factors that might help you determine if it’s strep:

• Consider age first. Strep is most common in kids, adolescents and young adults. If you’re over 30 – it’s harder to get unless someone in your family has it.

• Consider the symptoms. If your throat hurts so much that it’s hard to swallow anything – and you have a fever – go to the doctor.

• Consider lack of symptoms. If you’ve got the severe sore throat WITHOUT a runny nose or cough – that suggests strep too.

If you do think you or your child has strep throat – don’t put off the trip to the doctor and the test. It’s contagious and you NEED antibiotics to reduce the risk of strep complications, which can be really serious.

If you were the first-born – you probably think you’re smarter

Not only do first-born children get more attention and less hand-me-downs than their siblings...

...it turns out they’re smarter too – but not by much. A lot of studies have been done on the subject and they keep coming up with the same results. The most extensive study out of Norway found that eldest children had an IQ nearly 3 points higher on average than the second-born siblings – and about 4 points higher than third-borns.

Before you start bragging about your first-born IQ status – keep in mind you may owe it all to your younger siblings. The author of the study believes that it’s the teaching and bossing around of the little brothers and sisters that elevate the eldest IQ.

If you’re a middle child – you are considered more sociable and a better negotiator.

If you’re the baby – you’re the most caring, creative and flexible of the bunch.

So you think you’re a good driver?

Would you be willing to take a good driver pledge?

Raise your right hand – UNLESS you’re driving! Part of the pledge involves keeping both hands on the wheel. In an effort to encourage people to be more responsible drivers, Audi has announced a new program which asks motorist to take the “Driver’s Pledge.” You don’t need to drive an Audi to get in on it. Here’s what the pledge consists of:

• I will place my hands at 9 and 3 – not 9 and latte.

• I will not text, eat, read, groom myself, or partake in any other distracting behavior while driving.

• I will not tailgate unless I’m in the parking lot of a stadium.

• I will not drive at a snail’s pace in the left-hand lane - unless of course, a snail’s pace is appropriate.

If you’d like to make it official – you can take the pledge online at DriversPledge.com.

If you’re eating more lately – it could be the weather...

As the temperature drops – so does our metabolism...

It’s no surprise a lot of us start gaining weight in the fall and keep going right through winter. Colder body temperature stimulates the appetite. Eating literally warms us up – by about 10%.

Less time spent outside and new crops of seasonal food on display don’t help much either. If you’d like to cut seasonal weight gain off at the pass – dress in layers be sure to stay active. Keeping your body temperature up will help keep your appetite at bay. Jog – don’t walk – past that pumpkin pie display in the supermarket.

Your social security number has some hidden meanings in there.

John David Sweeney

You’ve memorized your social security number – but do you know what it means?

There is a formula in there that says a bit about you. Here’s how to decode it:

• The first three digits are the area number. Originally, the numbers started in the northeast and moved westward. Now those numbers are based on the zip code in the mailing address on your application form. For most people, those first three numbers indicate the state they were born in.

• The two digits in the middle are used to break same area numbers into smaller groups.

• The last four digits are the serial number. After the group number in the middle, the serial numbers are assigned in consecutive order from 0001 to 9999.

So far, social security numbers have not run out. Using the current nine-digit system, we have one billion possible combinations and we’re up to a little more than 453 million.

The first official social security card was issued to John David Sweeney, a 23 year old from New Rochelle, New York. He was just randomly pulled from a stack of records and was given the number 055-09-0000. He died at age 61 before ever receiving any benefits from the program.

Do you believe in UFOs? I’ll tell you how to answer that question in a job interview...

Have you ever been thrown a curve-ball question in a job interview?

It’s a favorite technique of some hiring managers to see how you’ll react. CareerBuilder surveyed some hiring managers and asked them what they ask:

• Do you believe in UFOs? Your best answer would suggest you’re open minded. This question is actually designed to let them know if you believe anything is possible, within reason.

• If you could possess a superpower, what would it be? This is your chance to be clever. Think of a superpower that could relate in some way to the company or the position. For example, the ability to read someone’s mind would help you find solutions for a client.

• Are you a pencil or a pen? To answer this question - consider whether they are looking for someone who is flexible and open to change - or authoritative, bold and daring.

• Can you drive in bad weather? This one really means “Can you perform under pressure.” If you’re applying for a driving position – it might not be such a trick question after all.

If you’re getting dressed for work – check your shoes.

If you work in a place that expects you to dress professionally – shoes count!

According to Matthew Randall of the Center for Professional Excellence at York College of Pennsylvania, items like footwear and accessories some people choose can either reinforce or diminish their personal branding. Here are some basic wardrobe tips:

• Modesty is a virtue - assuming you want to be noticed for your great work, not your tight pants, short skirt or cleavage.

• Don’t get TOO casual on Friday. Shorts, halter tops and college sweatshirts could be taking Casual Friday a little too far.

• Shabby shoes speak volumes and people do notice. If you like to wear heels, keep them reasonable – if they’re hard to walk in you look awkward and at a disadvantage.

• Be reasonable with seasonal stuff. Fall colors are fine. Festive accessories for the next colorful holiday do NOT look professional – unless you’re working at a costume store or as Santa’s elf.

The next time you go to a nice restaurant – get a good table...

Like it or not – some really nice restaurants DO play favorites.

In most cases, there are a few less desirable tables in the house – and you don’t have to take it. Tables near the door, kitchen, bathroom or service station can ruin a really nice meal. If you’re led to one of those – ask nicely if there is another option. If the person seating you says “no,” politely ask them to double check. Fine restaurants usually have a few choice tables saved for regulars – and they might just give one up if it’s not taken.

If you haven’t been to the restaurant before – tell them that when you make your reservation. Mention it’s your first visit and you’d really like a nice table. If you can be flexible with your seating time – tell them – you’ll get a much better spot.

If you’re a guy with a receding hairline – relax!

Some  men start watching their hairlines recede in their 20s or 30s. Relax!

A new study found that men who embrace their receding hairline experience a LOT less stress. On the other hand, those who tried hair replacement strategies were more likely to wind up frustrated and disappointed dealing with the side effects and costs.

If you do have a receding hairline – your haircut can make all the difference. Think Donald Trump vs. Lance Armstrong. Invest at least once in a really good style-conscious hairdresser. They are skilled at finding the right cut for you that will enhance your best features and personal flair.

If you tend to hover over your kids – get out of their way!

If you hover over your kids to be sure they don’t get hurt...

...not only are you a helicopter parent, you could be making them fat! A new study in the American journal of Preventative Medicine found that the single biggest barrier to children’s physical activity on a playground was the presence of a hovering parent.

If you’re that parent lingering under the jungle gym or warning “Not too high!” on the swings – your kid is a lot less likely to run around and get as active as the other kids. And if you’re the parent who feels more comfortable with your child safe at home playing video games than outside taking some risks – it could be a big problem.

It seems we have one guy to thank for dozens of phrases and clichés we use every day...

If you’ve ever wondered who started some catch phrases like “Too much of a good thing,” “Green eyed monster,” “Love is blind” and “Good riddance!” It was...

William Shakespeare. A 20 year old named Becky from London started a list and posted it on her English Muse blog – and here are some Shakespearean classics:

• For goodness’ sake

• Come what may

• A sorry sight

• A piece of work

• Wild goose chase

• Laughing stock

• Brave new world

• Break the ice

• Vanish into thin air

• In a pickle

• Off with his head

• Dead as a doornail

Becky’s blog has gone viral – one phrase NOT attributed to Shakespeare. And if that “makes your hair stand on end,” you have him to thank for that one too.

Are you the jealous type? Good!

Do you feel pangs of jealousy over your partner’s new colleague or acquaintance?

That could be a good thing. She says a little bit of jealousy can go a long way in protecting your relationship. It’s natural for people to feel attracted to other people once in a while – even if they’re already spoken for. The important thing is not to act inappropriately on that attraction.

Consider addressing the situation with your partner by discussing it honestly. Go ahead and let them know you picked up on some potential chemistry, and give your partner the opportunity to reassure you. That approach can actually help protect and even strengthen your bond together.

Lessons are part of life – but there are a few you might want to unlearn...

Life lessons are part of growing up and growing wise...

...but according to life coach Martha Beck, there are a few life lessons worth UNlearing:

• Lesson 1: Problems are bad. That’s not always true. An awful relationship can teach you more about love. Job burnout could be steering you toward your perfect career.

• Lesson 2: Stay happy. If you’re experiencing something miserable and tell yourself “I must stay happy!” you’re putting unreasonable pressure on yourself.

• Lesson 3: Hard work leads to success. It’s just not always the case. A healthy dose of play and keeping childhood instinctive skills in tact can be important secrets of true success.

Hopefully you have an emergency plan for your family – but what about your pets?

In case of emergency, you might not have as much time as you’d like to make some really important decisions...

...like what to do with your pets. Ines de Pablo, founder of Wag’N Enterprises has some basic essentials we need to think about ahead of time:

• Create an emergency contact list of friends or family who live nearby who could reach your pets quickly. They’ll need a key.

• Have an emergency backpack filled with a 2 week supply of food for your pet. Also, remember you’ll need access of up to one gallon of water per pet, per day.

• Invest in sturdy pet carriers. Your pet will need a familiar, safe place to stay if it ends up with a relative or in an emergency shelter.

 

• Make copies of any pet documentation and keep them in a waterproof container in your pet’s emergency backpack. It’s a good idea to have a leash and any other basic accessories your pet might need in there too.

If you’re anxious to buy a pumpkin from that first fall crop – brace yourself...

Are you looking forward to picking your pumpkin? Prepare yourself for some sticker shock...

Record flooding has hit a prime patch of the Northeast pumpkin crops – resulting in pricier pumpkins for everyone. Thanks to Hurricane Irene and subsequent flooding – many pumpkin fields were left submerged, resulting in drowned crops. That all adds up to fewer pumpkins and slim pickings.

Finding that perfect carving pumpkin could be trickier too. Wet weather promotes fungus disease on pumpkins and affects the foliage – which prevents the pumpkins from growing as large as they normally do.

The next time you go for a manicure – skip the drying routine!

If you enjoy a manicure on a regular basis - skip the UV drying!

Those nail salon dryers are like little tanning beds – and according to a report in the Archives of Dermatology, that UV light increases our risk of cancer and wrinkles. If you use them every two weeks or so, that’s considered significant exposure.

Dermatologists are reporting more cases of skin cancer on the fingers – typically a very rare location – in patients who have frequent exposure to nail-drying lights.