Fighting Fair

When a personal relationship hits the skids – it’s important to fight fair...

Even the closest relationships are prone to fights. Whether it’s a partner, sibling, parent or child – fighting fair can minimize the damages. Personal coach Lauren Zander has some fighting don’ts:

• Don’t pretend it never happened – it just erodes intimacy in the long run.

• Don’t try to resolve things in the heat of battle.

• Don’t use anything said in those agitated moments against each other later.

It’s important to address hurt feelings after the dust has settled – but it’s not always easy. Try to stick to the issue at hand – and avoid throwing in any other gripes. Once you’ve stated your case – it’s their turn. Hear them out without interrupting. Sometimes it’s more about being heard than being right.