If there’s someone in your life that tends to dump on you – try this...
Most of us know a Debby Downer or a Bummer Bob. The next time someone dirties your day with THEIR emotional garbage – your response could clean it up a bit. Here are some phrases to try:
• “Yes, that must be annoying. By the way, I’ve been meaning to ask you about something else.” Change the subject.
• “Do you need to vent about this for a minute?” Make them realize they're dumping.
• “It seems you’re not happy. You should come up with some ideas on how to change that.” It’s not your problem.
If none of those work - take a moment to visualize their garbage truck passing by. Smile as you watch it disappear into the distance. It helps prevent their garbage from sticking to your shoes.
It's great to be a supportive friend - but lending a sympathetic ear or shoulder too often to a chronic complainer, drama queen or king, just feeds the monster and can zap you of precious good energy.
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