1. Always/never statements: “You never respect my decisions, Mom.” These statements can be inflammatory and can spark more conflict. Don’t re-hash the past; save it for another day.
2. Avoid the big three: politics, money, and religion. Just don’t expect everyone else to do the same. This was a big election year and you can only control yourself and your own reactions. Prepare to let controversial statements slide.
3. Embarrassing stories about others: Although this may seem like fun to some family members, others may not be as appreciative. If there is a new significant other at the table, now is not the time to bring up family fiascos or single anyone out.
4. Negative family gossip: Sometimes people inadvertently stray onto the topic of family gossip and rumors. This is your cue to change the subject to something more positive and less personal.
5. Discussion of eating or drinking habits: Thanksgiving is often a day of excess. Go with the flow. This is not the day to comment on others’ food choices or weight. If a family member has a known drinking problem, be prepared with a safety plan for yourself and an excuse to call it a night if things get uncomfortable.
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